let them lead

September 5, 2013 at 11:38 am 4 comments


I was reminded of something very dear to me last weekend. It’s so important to let our children have an opportunity to lead US. So much time is spent (wasted) trying to get kids to do what we want them to do, dress how we want them to dress, play how we want them to play, act how we want them to act, smile | stand | sit how we want them to for our photos, for others, for our selves. I see so many people trying to control everything around them–including their children, spouses, family–and it is driving everyone crazy, including themselves.

Children are people too.

We visited the Detroit Zoo last weekend and I gave Wren the map and let her lead us for the day. Of course I had to say “no” to most of the ice cream stands and gift shops we walked past, but that’s about where I drew the line. Otherwise, we saw the animals that she wanted to see, we took the paths she wanted to take and we saw the penguins twice. Why not?

It’s so vital that we let our children have these kind of opportunities. How else do they learn to lead and feel confident in their choices? So what if we didn’t see the monkeys.


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  • 1. Doreen  |  September 5, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    great post and a great reminder. So easy in the rush of each day to stop and do exactly what you are proposing. I am so very guilty of trying to get things done MY way for the sake of getting through the day. Thank you Ash for this wonderful reminder and perspective.

  • 2. Chris  |  September 5, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    Great post Ashlea. I love the picture of Wren and the map. THAT is so Wren.

  • 3. the-green-egg  |  September 9, 2013 at 6:54 am

    I SO appreciate this blog post, on so many levels. It’s a powerful shift when we begin to see our children as “people” too. Thanks for writing!

  • 4. lisa  |  October 1, 2013 at 9:10 pm

    Very true! Thanks for the reminder. Hope you’re off to a great Fall!


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