drinking like a Montessori, revisited


I have such a vivid memory of the time Wren learned to drink from a real cup (instead of a sippy cup). I don’t think I had even considered it, but she was going to enroll in a Montessori school a couple mornings and she had to know how to drink from a cup. I was surprised at how quickly she learned to drink from it and I was thrilled to see how proud she was of herself. It was one of the first times that the basic idea of Montessori hit home: independence promotes confidence.

Now that the second child is here, parenting is a lot more intuitive and involves a lot more watching and learning from her. Phoebe has been putting a cup up to her mouth and drinking in the bath a lot lately, yuck. When she’s in the kitchen, she’ll often reach for a cup and pretend to drink. Today Wren and I decided that she would help Phoebe learn to drink water from her cup. They both were so proud! And wet.

I had an “aha!” moment today with these two. I’ve been struggling to find things the three of us can do together. Usually it involves Phoebe getting into Wren’s stuff (paint, stickers, puzzle, book) and Wren screaming at Phoebe. Fun! And then I listened and watched and quietly directed, but it didn’t take much from me. Voila! Birdie number two begins to drink from a cup, thanks to her sister.


I’m so excited to explore this more: empowering Wren to help Phoebe explore the world in a meaningful way. Nothing is forced, just a natural relationship that needs a bit of nurturing from Mama.

0 thoughts on “drinking like a Montessori, revisited

  1. My experiences with having two is so similar. It seems like my oldest drank from a sippy cup forever. A few months ago, my son started to flat out refuse to drink out of anything but a regular cup at dinner time. He will be 2 in March. Usually some portion of his dinner ends up in the cup before we clear the dishes away, but he can empty the cup of water without losing a dribble. I have to think this was all inspired by watching his big sister. We are navigating the other stuff too, little one getting into bigger one’s stuff, etc. But for us too, parenting with the second is a lot more intuitive. I guess they have the benefit of the second go around.

  2. That is sweet. It is so fulfilling to see your older child find purpose within herself and within the family dynamic as she helps her little sister. Many fun memories are ahead for your family!

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