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2010 in review « squirrels in wren's nest — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 18:10:42 +0000

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By: Torre Boone

Torre Boone — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 04:02:32 +0000

I think you might be putting a little too much pressure on yourself. If it doesn’t yet feel right to you to have Wren in a car without you or be away from her for more than a few hours, then don’t do it. I don’t think you are being overprotective, you just haven’t HAD to do those things, so it might seem awkward and uncomfortable to do after almost eight months, however, know that eventually those things will have to happen and maybe set some goals for yourself to help you get there.

Good luck!!

~torre

By: paula

paula — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:33:11 +0000

My husband and I have been struggling to let go of our unconscious tendencies toward overprotective behaviors too. Mine resemble what you described – the mama grizzly bear metaphor was one I used early on with our 2 1/2 year old. From the day she was born, I’ve had to learn to let go a little more each day, and I’m finally starting to accept that it’s a lifelong process. However, when/if I do, I feel more whole and indeed, see how it empowers her to become a whole person too. I do think postpartum hormones serve a purpose to some degree (a redneck woman getting in her face at Kroger when she was 11 days old is something I’ll never forget… another reason to carry your baby in a sling instead of leaving her in the carseat in the shopping cart!), but shortly thereafter, we must start asking ourselves what is in the best interests of our children and in our own best interests. And the poem by Khalil Gibran is one of the wisest things I’ve ever read – I never tire of it, and I’m sure I need to read it every time I see it.